You Can Get Whatever You Want, But Timing Is A Bitch!
Patience is a virtue but Timing is a bitch!
I have been meaning to write on this for so long. This phrase has many levels. I mean what is the purpose of saying “timing is a bitch” and for whom? Well, I would only unveil some points or areas where I would like to explain that “timing is a bitch” really (this is my personal perspective). For the first time, I heard this line in one of my favorite sitcoms, How I Met Your Mother where Robin, the protagonist’s love interest, says to Ted, the protagonist:
“If you have chemistry, you only need one other thing: timing. But time is a bitch.”
The background of this line is that Ted wanted to meet the girl of his dreams but is unable to do so. Robin was trying to console him by saying that you should keep searching for your soul mate, because you are definitely going to meet her and whenever you meet that girl you should not let her go, ever. The main problem she articulated was that time would create a problem.
You see, sometimes in your life, you meet the people you connect with but they cannot be yours due to bad timing. I know there are many issues in this world that become hurdles for two people such as parents, finance, emotions, family boundaries, customs, religion, etc. But my point of concentration here is “bad timing”. I think bad timing comes in your way so often that it really ruins your life.
Be Patient, You are Going to Get Your “Precious Fruit”
In the Urdu language, there is a proverb as “sabar ka phal meetha hota hai”. I don’t know the proverbial equivalence of this line in English, but the literal meaning of this line reads, “The fruit of patience is sweet”, or Aristotle once said,
“Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet”.
Once I was talking to a friend of mine and I said “your time will come, be patient”. She replied in a very interesting way:
“When I am going to get my precious fruit? When I would not be having any teeth to bite it?”
See, another way of saying, “Timing is a bitch”. How can the fruit of patience sweet when it isn’t served at the time of your hunger? Or maybe I am getting on the wrong perspective here?
When Time Comes, You Lose Interest in The Fruit, Don’t You?
There are many things that happen in your life that are unpleasant. You want to get rid of them as soon as possible either these things are pains from some heart-broken incident or some bad events. In each case, you want to get yourself out of it. At that time, a piece of advice is given by everyone, “be patient, everything is going to be alright”.
Well, they are absolutely true. Eventually, everything becomes alright. Now, my main point of discussion is that when the time comes and everything becomes alright, we kind of lose interest in the fruit. Let me explain it with an example, say someone did bad to you and you want justice or infuse some pain over that person, but you cannot do it at that time because that person is already doing well and you feel stricken hearten. With the passage of time, everything becomes alright as said earlier, and at that time Karma does its work. (Karma means what happens to a person happens because they caused it with their actions). This is your fruit-bearing time, but now fruit doesn’t seem sweet, right? Have you ever thought about that?
Another Perspective of “Timing is a Bitch”
I often wonder everything you wish you get in your life. I have seen people talking like this, “Alas! that person could be mine, but they cannot be because there are many issues NOW”. Do you know what happens there? Actually that person meets you at the wrong time.
For example, you are poor and you want someone but your poverty is a hurdle. Now you are rich, but that person is gone. See, time plays an ugly role. Can you see the irony of the situation here as everything you wished for you get but… but… not at that time when you need it. Hence, timing is bitch. Sometimes, things come in your life, when you do not need it.
The Two Most Powerful Warriors
According to Leo Tolstoy,
“The two most powerful warriors are patience and time.”
The main problem is that patience is in your hands and time isn’t. And that is the main problem, dear.
A Silver Lining
I do not want to present an ugly picture only. Time also heals your wounds by presenting to you some better things. Are you sure that what fruit you needed was really best for you? Have you ever thought that in a later time, something best is on your way if you are persistent in your struggle?
Moreover,
Leo Tolstoy also said,
“Pure and complete sorrow is as impossible as pure and complete joy”.
This is true. You cannot be happy or sad for so long. Eventually, you get over with your emotions. If that is true, then what is the point of leashing out the “time”?
Be Happy, stop worrying about happy or sad moments. Everything will fade soon. My piece of advice is that,
“When you are happy, fully enjoy it, when you are sad, just think that it will fade soon with some good replacement”.
